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It goes like this: 

1. There is an event (this can be a social interaction like a conversation, or a phenomenon like a loud, repetitive, or unusual sound)
2. The mind wants to interpret that event.
3. The mind uses that event to prove something is lacking.
4. Thus you feel displeasure about the lacking, not the event.

Thus if you can step back from the interpretation, you can see the phenomenon neutrally or perhaps positively.

Rather than the actual event being the source, it is the preconceived notion of lack; it is the interpretation itself, that is the problem. It seems like the event is causing the displeasure, but the feeling of lack precedes the event. The interpretation is being driven by a presumption of lack. This means the upset is actually due to the sense of lack, rather than the actual event itself.